The Power of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking is never about slapping on a fake smile and pretending everything is perfect. It’s about choosing yes, deciding how you respond to the chaos. And when you make that decision, every day something remarkable happens: You become calmer, braver, funnier and more confident. In this way, you can smile and love the best of who you are becoming without effort. Sometimes you just don’t get lemons in life to make lemonade. Sometimes it can feel as if the universe is throwing rocks, and you are spent dodging them and thinking why does everything have to be harder for me. We have all had that experience: lying awake and staring at the ceiling at 3 a.m., replaying every mistake we ever made like it was some kind of terrible movie. But there's a way in which you change it positive thinking isn't about pretending the rocks aren’t there. It’s a matter of choosing to regard them as stepping stones, or at any rate not letting them crush you. And when you make that choice, day in and day out, your whole personality changes. You are more even-keeled under stress, braver when you’re uncertain, funnier because you just don’t give a shit and yeah, truly confident. It’s as if you get to upgrade yourself, and suddenly leverage a better version of yourself isn’t something you pump or push through“it” just shows up.

Here’s how it works, why it should matter to personality development and the tiny habits which will make you better. Personality is not formed in stone at birth. And psychologists might call it the “growth mindset,” but we will just call it hope with proof. The reason you’re on the lookout for good ok things is because, when you anticipate and expect good ok things at least even of itty bitty OKness your brain omg starts looking for them. You become less anxious, more open to experiences and much better at bouncing back from failure. The Science side of this is that the reticular activating system, fancy name for your brain. Consider it your own personal search bar for Google. Tell it “I’m going to bomb this interview” and it will shine a light on every shaky voice, sweaty palm and deer in the headlights moment. Flick the search over to “I am ready and I can do this,” and suddenly you are seeing all the things that back up the truth — your keen strengths, the interviewer’s genuinely friendly smile, that perfect example you prepared. Research from Harvard and Stanford supports this people who think positive are 23% less stressed out, and they make stronger social ties. Translation? You are no longer the quiet one who sulks in a corner and sends out a few texts trying to make her new friend. Consider the impact of optimism on health A large volume of studies have shown that optimists are less likely to get depressed, show lower rates of cancer and a stronger immune response, and even live as much as 15% longer (according to some longitudinal studies). Why? Less cortisol coursing through you, more of the feel-good stuff that’s serotonin and dopamine. In personality this means there is actual traits that have arisen. You become confident because you’re no longer defeating yourself. Empathy sharpens because you’re not so wrapped up in your own worries that go unaware of others’ cues. And resilience? That's the star. Setbacks are not who you are, they’re what inform you. A well-known Grant Study at Harvard, for example, has followed men since the 1930s in what is one of the longest studies on human development ever done. The strongest predictor of happiness and success? Not I.Q., not a picture-perfect childhood, not money. And guess what fuels those? A good attitude that makes you fun to be around, easygoing and pleasant. Have you ever wondered why some people appear to gather friends easily? It’s usually this kind of low-key optimism that spreads out. And one of the great things about that is, naturally, it’s not all inborn we begin with plenty of skepticism and grow it.

Daily Practices to Adapt Your Personality personality magnet.

You don’t require hours of meditation or costly courses. Begin with these easy habits do one today you can even add another tomorrow. Watch your confidence skyrocket. Before you scroll through Instagram, jot down three things you’re grateful for and one tiny win that will happen to you today however small it may be. This prepares your brain for good vibes and makes you feel particularly warm all day long. Catch a negative thought? Add “yet.” “I’m not comfortable with public speaking… yet.” It sounds cringe, but it makes dead-end streets open roads. All of a sudden you’re the one who wants to be in front of everyone, not avoiding it. Finished a chapter of studying? Text a friend “Just devoured 30 pages!” Small gatherings produce dopamine, and you’re more outgoing and fun to be around. A happy energy is an energy that people are naturally attracted to and want more of. Personality grows out of the company you keep. Silence the drama queens, and spend time with people who support you. Your vibe does attract your tribe. Positive thinking is not toxic positivity, and if you have always shared your ruminations with a sounding board (a friend or family member), I highly recommend seeking professional help. Some days suck. Scream, eat ice cream, bitch with your best friend about him in a healthy way. The difference? You don’t pitch a tent in the mud. You recognize the rain, then search for the rainbow.” That resilience? It’s the sexiest part of any personality.

Your 7-Day Positive Thinking Challenge

Day 1 Gratitude in the morning (3 things)

Day 2: Turn one bad thought around

Day 3: Announce a small victory aloud

Day 4: Text a friend something affirming

Day 5: Reflecting at bedtime (3 good things that happened today)

Day 6: Give a stranger (a waiter, classmate, etc.) a compliment

Look at yourself in the mirror and say, ‘“I’m becoming that person I’m proud of.”

Here’s the disturbing truth that nobody is going to share with you “out there” The most gorgeous, magnetic, high-achieving men and women didn’t start that way. They’d simply opted to think a little more kindly about themselves and the world. That choice redefined their personality, one positive thought at a time. So tonight, before you click out of this tab, try one thing write down three things you like about yourself. Read them tomorrow morning. Feel that tiny spark? That’s the power of positive thinking coming alive in you. You’ve got the tools. You’ve got the heart. Now get out there and develop a personality that brightens every room you enter.

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Author:-

Milind Krishna